Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Frock me!

I’m not sure exactly when it happened, but sometime when I was pregnant with G I lost interest in my appearance. Maybe it was the massive weight gain and growing bump that forced me out of my clothes and into unflattering maternity gear. Maybe it was the horrendous morning sickness that had me dashing off to the ladies every half an hour. Rather than getting up to wash and blow dry my hair I pulled it into a ponytail and enjoyed an extra twenty minutes sleep. My make up bag was shoved in a draw. I felt awful, I wasn’t bothered that I looked awful too.

When G was born I was very overweight. I continued to wear my maternity clothes. I didn’t care. I was too tired to care, too busy with my new baby. If I was going somewhere special I’d pop a little mascara on. I bought a few new tops. My mummy-drobe consisted of practical clothing I could pull on in a hurry. Jeans, shorts, tee-shirts.

I wasn’t suffering from low self esteem. Or at least I didn’t think I was. I simply had other priorities. Sometimes I’d see a beautifully dressed and fully made up ‘yummy mummy’ and wonder where on earth she found the time.

Years passed. I lost weight. I got new clothes, but on the whole I chose comfort and sensible. Breastfeeding meant I needed easy access to my boobs. Baby wearing meant supportive shoes.  Sometimes I’d see myself in the mirror and look away. I told myself it didn’t matter how I looked.

When I finally cracked and joined Twitter earlier in the year I stumbled across fashion and style bloggers like Kimbalikes, Fox in Flats, Styling You & Redcliffe style. I clicked the links, I looked at the pictures. It felt voyeuristic and intimidating, I didn’t think I belonged there. I didn’t think it applied to me. I made jokey comments. I clicked away.

But blogging is a funny business. Click, click, click. A link here. A link there. Little seeds were sewn.

It started with the Fox in Flats Redlipstick dare. I wore my lippy and pouted for selfies, tagging my way in to the challenge. I kept looking at the photos, or catching myself in the mirror thinking "Hey! I scrub up ok!". Over the course of the dare I started making a little more effort. I put on a dress. I blow dried my hair. My children eyed me with suspicion. 


It was the beautiful Kimba who told me about Frocktober (which is a challenge to raise money and awareness for Ovarian Cancer). When I say ‘told me’ I mean ‘I read about it on her blog’. Wear a dress every day for a month? My first instinct was to make a joke. But the more I thought about it the more I wanted in.

I’m now nine days in…. and I LOVE it. 

Frocking up has given me a massive confidence boost. It’s inspired me to experiment a little, to dig out my make up bag, to file my nails and… er… shave my legs…

I’ve started looking a little more like my old self… (not that my old self ever wore a little black dress to do the weekly grocery shop… ) and I feel good! 

                            


If you would like to find out more about Frocktober or sponsor me please click here.

35 comments:

  1. This is a great idea! It's amazing how popping on a dress can make you feel better about yourself too.
    I personally love dressss, because I can just pop on one piece of clothing. No running around trying to match a shirt with these pants.... Lol

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  2. Love it! Unfortunately, being almost 9 months pregnant, I have exactly 2 "frocks" that I could rotate this month! Maybe next year. PS -you rock that red lippy.

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  3. I love dresses and skirts. You look gorgeous. Rachel x

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  4. The happily married guy with a daughter and another on the way nods at you and says "nice" in a non flirty, casual sort of way.

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  5. You look fabulous... look forward to seeing the results from the rest of the challenge x

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  6. Go you with Frockober. I would barely have enough dresses to last the first week!

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    1. I had more than I thought and I've borrowed some too. I may end up wearing my wedding dress!

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  7. Gorgeous! Love the idea - look forward to reading more! x

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  8. frock on!!!! :) You are looking gorgeous!!!

    #teamIBOT was here to say hi!

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  9. Oh what a great idea, I love dresses - not only are they so much more convenient (one piece) they're feminine and pretty and always lift my mood. You look great.

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  10. Look at you sexy Mama! I know exactly how you felt. I haven't cared about my appearance in a long time, and spend most days in jeans and hoodies (or trackies if I can get away with it!)Chrissie xx

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  11. Isn't frocktober awesome for all sorts of brilliant reasons? I can't believe the sponsorship I get just for wearing dresses. I'm glad it is having such a positive effect on you.

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  12. Wow, you look truly amazing! How wonderful to rediscover your femininity in the midst of motherhood. xx

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    1. Thank you Zanni. It's funny that you put it like that, but you've totally hit the nail on the head x

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  13. Frocktober really suits you - perhaps you should do it all year round x

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  14. Never underestimate the power of a little dressing up! I too dabbled in the red lipstick dare and I found that I made more effort in my appearance overall because it looks a little stupid to be wearing your red lips with some daggy baggy shorts. You look beautiful in those dresses, I can see the confidence beaming out of you, I hope you report back at the end of the month too x

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  15. I definitely do not wear dresses enough! You look great! xo

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  16. I thought about joining in frocktober but then realised I only own three dresses! (my joke comment)
    Prue x

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  17. You look great. You are a very photogenic lady and you look like you are having fun with it.

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  18. Frocktober - another fantastic October initiative that I'm only learning about today thanks to #IBOT.

    I'm a way better chance of completing Frocktober than I am of mastering Octsober, although I'm hopeful of lightening the load with Droptober!

    Frock on!

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  19. Oh you look Fab!!!!

    Good on you for taking the plunge!! You wont look back!

    I did Frocktober last year and it really was good for the soul!
    xxx

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  20. Fab idea - but I would be wearing the same outfit for 31 days in a row ;)

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  21. Looking gorgeous, C! And the red lips? Honey, you know how to wear that look so well! Have been loving the photos on IG! x

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  22. It's been quite a revelation to me just how much changing your appearance in a little way can make a massive difference to your self-esteem and mood. I am slowly coming to realise this more and more, that's it's not so much about fashion but about how it makes you feel on the inside. I'm still a a long way off being happy with how I look and dress, it might be a while, after I'm done having babies and breastfeeding, but small steps are all it takes at the moment to make me feel just a little better. Some mascara and blush can set my mood for the whole day. I think you look absolutely gorgeous, and I love seeing all your pics on IG, you look so happy! You are most definitely a yummy mummy now!

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  23. Oh, babe! You look absolutely fabulous and you might have, just quietly, made me cry a little tiny bit. Tears of joy. Yes, I'm deeply shallow because I do care about fluffy silly things like fashion and makeup. But if something like this has changed your perception of yourself, then that is an amazing thing!

    Also, how fabulous is it to be able to be deeply shallow and raise money for such fabulous causes! I'm very proud of you, and that red lipstick? You ROCK it! x

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    1. Thank you!! I can't believe what a difference this has made to me. Hurruh to frocktober xx

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  24. Wow you look beautiful and such a great cause too. Keep it up, you're giving many woman the inpirations to "Frock Up" too x

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  25. You look gorgeous mate. I couldn't do the dress everyday for a month thing. I'm more of a jeans and shirt girl since forever. Glad it's starting to make you feel good.

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  26. Definitely looking gorgeous :) A great dress always gives me a confidence boost!

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  27. You've looked gorgeous every day. Good on you for getting out of the rut of wearing a mummy uniform!

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  28. It's amazing how something so simple can help us get back to who we are. You look gorgeous by the way. x

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