Yes. My husband bought me a gravy boat for Christmas.
I do not wish to sound ungrateful. After all, I had expressed a desire for such an item, being fond of a roast dinner and weary of serving my gravy in an old mug.
I’m sure a gravy boat is a perfectly fine gift… for an elderly aunt, or even one of those ‘tricky to buy for people’…
What do you buy for the person who has everything? Why a gravy boat of course!
The opening of the gravy boat was followed by an awkward silence.
“Don’t you like it?” my husband asked, somewhat indignantly
I regarded the gravy boat. It was made from bone china, plain white and came with a matching plate. If I wished to complement the gravy boat I would say it was simple and elegant. However, at the end of the day, it was a gravy boat.
“Of course I like it! It’s lovely!” I replied, summoning some enthusiasm for the ill conceived gift.
“What’s wrong?” he asked, sensing my poorly concealed disappointment.
“It’s not the gravy boat” I replied…
“It’s what the gravy boat represents!”
Back in the days before we had children, my husband and I enjoyed a rather extravagant lifestyle. We dined at fine restaurants, we drank expensive wine, we travelled often. We didn’t have the financial worries that came with having children.
On our first Christmas together my husband bought me a gorgeous Tiffany necklace and a beautiful silver watch. I bought him a guidebook for Singapore, along with return tickets and a busy itinerary. We had the time and the funds to choose meaningful gifts for one another.
I looked down at the gravy boat and pined for the old days, before we were married, before we had children. But the days of extravagance have long gone.
As we have navigated sleep deprivation and the challenge of raising children our marriage has seen some choppy water. But, we held on and sailed through, because that’s what relationships are all about…. I’m sure there will be ups and downs to come; after all, we’re sailing into unknown territory…
And as we all know, the best way to navigate uncharted waters is in a boat… I just didn’t know it would be a gravy boat.
This year I’ve asked for socks.
Linking up with Essentially Jess for the last IBOT of the year!
Wishing all my fellow IBOT'ers a wonderful Christmas.